What is a cougar?

Answer:  The most commonly-accepted definition of a cougar is a woman 40 years of age or older who exclusively pursues very young men.  Some feel that a cougar can be as young as 35, but women of this age would not be viewed as cougars unless their sexual conquests were no older than 25; the ten-year age difference seems to be an unspoken but accepted minimum between partners.

A new breed of cougars has emerged—they’re called pumas.

 What is a puma?

Answer:  An attractive woman in her late 20s or early 30s. She is a pre-cougar who is not quite old enough to be a cougar, but still likes to date/mate with younger men usually 19-23.

These 30-something (pumas) women are eager to get in on the boy-toy action, and guys are happy to oblige.  Fact is, no matter what age bracket you’re talking about, being with an “older” woman appeals to a lot of men. She has the benefit of life experience, education, and more sexual experience, in the aspect that they know what they want—three traits guys admire.   Nowadays, women are more financially successful than ever, and this shift has changed what many men desire in a partner.  Guys are often attracted primarily to a woman’s independence, direction in life, and job success.  Allot of the time, these woman are so focused on their career that they are not ready to conceive either.  So, that, in and of itself, is a small blessing that these men are looking for.  “A good time, not a long time.”  There also may be less pressure for them to prove themselves financially, because pumas tend to be more understanding if younger guys lack ambition or success.

Women in these relationships are also reaping the benefits.  Since the guys may not have nailed down a high-powered career, they are often more carefree, relaxed, and up for anything, (hint hint, nod, nod) which can be a refreshing break for women who have been dating their stressed-out male peers.  Then it also boosts their ego: Considering that these guys have the option of scoring younger women, a puma would feel pretty damn good if she snags a cub.

Younger guys also have a tendency to put older girlfriends up on a pedestal and are more easily impressed by their achievements than older men might be.  And who wouldn’t love that?  He feels as though he has something to prove, because really she can go and be with someone her own age, but it feels good to this cub that she is, “choosing him.”

As cougars well know, and pumas are figuring out, dating a younger guy can be like hitting the sexual jackpot—and not just because women peak later than men do.   A woman is coming into her peak in her early thirties which would make a male in his twenties very sexually compatible.  As women leave their twenties behind, they become more comfortable in their skin, and instead of worrying about how they look during sex, they focus more on how they feel.  They want to be fulfilled, and desired, and a man in his early twenties wants to feel that acceptance from this cougar and puma. 

This self-assurance is very attractive to young men.  Appearance will always play a major role in physical attraction, but being with a woman who has confidence is more appealing for some young men than her having super tight abs.

So tell me how do you feel about going to a club and seeing a cougar or puma trying to pick up your ex. or your brother?  Are there still double standards out there?  Is this still a taboo issue?  And if you are someone dating or married to a younger guy, did you get allot of flack for it?

So it is a rampant new habit that young people, mostly young women are doing called sexting, which is taking a picture of themselves nude and sending it around from their cell phone to young gentlemen (I use that word loosely) to try to coerce the young men into liking her with the possibility of having oral or sexual intercourse.  My question is sexting, really, how is that even cool?

Traditionally, our age range, would have engaged in phone sex which is talking smut on the phone, well we thought that this concept was awkward and strange, but sending nude pictures around for the world to see, seems to me a bit brazen.  Really once she presses send, it is a free for all, you don’t know who is going to have access to that picture.

My next question is why do all these young people need access to all of this technology?  Why do young people need cell phones?  When I was younger I didn’t have a cell phone and my parents knew where I was every waking minute.  In my generation parents spoke to one another, where there was a role model around to watch what we were in to and what we were doing.  It would be easy for me to verbally bash these parents that are not instilling any morals or self restraint.  But I won’t go there right now.  Young boys are experimental, they are creatures with wondering minds. 

So then what is going on with our girls?  When did sexting become cool?  Where are these girls at in their mind, to be able to get naked for a BOY that they don’t even know?  Who is taking these pictures of them?

Why don’t any of these girls have any self confidence?  Because in my mind any young woman that is taking a nude picture of themselves to gain respect and attention of a hormonal boy, is ridiculous.

Now it’s the parents turn… WHERE ARE YOU?  Why aren’t you monitoring the actions of your children?  Your sons are soliciting young girls and your daughter is becoming a prostitute in training.  All because they are missing and craving, your attention!  So, WHERE ARE YOU?  Too busy, with work and everything else that is going on with your life.  Well, your daughter is about to send a nude picture to the phone world, and I am sure that every boy in the school is going to see it.  Is that want you want for them.   Is that what you envisioned for them when they grew up.  But whatever right, you bought them everything they need to keep their impressionable minds busy.  Have you talked to them about safe sex yet?  Oh, wait, your child isn’t sexually active.  Well, let me give you a rude awakening, young people are starting to have sex at the age of 12.  A handful are sexually active children are starting to have sex at the age of 9.  THAT IS CRAZY!  But hey you can get a hold of them because you bought them a cell phone.  Right?

We the parents are the root of the problem.  Young people are blaming home life, they have no respect for their parents because they are not actively involved in their children’s lives, divorces are giving them the excuse that if their parents don’t have respect for love and a marriage then why should they have respect for any woman.  In their eyes a woman is an object, a disposable object.

“Take heed and beware of covetousness, for a man’s life consists not in the abundance of things that he possess’.”  Luke 12:15-16

Meaning, it is not what you are buying your children that should matter in your life it should be the time you’re putting in.  It is our responsibility to mold our children not with Wii games, but with love and morals.  It is our avocation to protect them, to provide them with standards and principle’s which do not come naturally to them.

So when it becomes your time to buy your young person a cell phone, remember the dangers that you could be putting them in. 

Do you know someone that participates in sexting?  What do you think of the ever growing subject?  Do you think that this is a dangerous way to show love?  Sexting, how is that even cool?

When Did Unprotected Sex Become So Normal?  More and more people have become completely unsafe in the practices of sex.

People now a days have multiple partners, flings, one night stands and do not use condoms.  Young men and women are taking huge sexual risks.  STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)are on the rise and it just seems as though they think they are invincible.  Like spider-man weaving webs and climbing walls, so are these groups of people that don’t believe that wrapping it up is a priority in their sexual life.

Young men and women believe that as long as a woman is on birth control, (which she is not most of the time) that having sex is not a risk.  A risk from what though I ask you?  You can still get pregnant, you can still get STDs, and you can still get HIV/AIDS.  So tell me, what is the birth control protecting you from?  I really want to know.

Women’s Health reveals how a casual attitude can have life-altering consequences.

I was reading an article where the young women said, “I don’t ask questions that I don’t want to know the answers to.”  Well, I bet she will be asking for child support!  She is currently sleeping with three men and doesn’t know any of their sexual pasts.  And when they ask her she lies.  Really why would any guy want to know that they aren’t the only one.  She said in this article that having casual sex keeps her safe emotionally.  You know the saying, “friends with benefits, or mating-without-dating.”  It’s happening all the time.  This is a very acceptable in our culture now.

Women are in this state of boozing themselves until they oblivious.  Absolutely polluted which takes away all of her inhibitions.  Sexual encounters just seem to happen when you look loose.  The “easy look.”  Where a man can buy her drinks with the knowledge that she is easy prey.  Alcohol is usually involved because it makes you bold enough to act and feel a certain way.  It throws all of our precautions away.

Plenty of young women today are stepping into active sex lives instead of being ambitious professionals pursuing time for traditional dating. “Sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies are hugely on the rise,” says sex therapist Laura Berman, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry and OBGYN at Northwestern University. “Unprotected anal (which is equally as common as vaginal sex) and oral sex, being with multiple partners, not having regular testing or regular Pap smears, drinking…all of these things create a perfect storm for putting yourself at higher risk.”

It is so easy for a man to say that it just doesn’t feel the same during sexual intercourse, but it doesn’t feel the same when you are pregnant either.  Women need to stop gambling their lives away.  Abortions, morning  after pills, the consequences are vast.