Let’s talk about sex!!  Tell me, when is it too soon to have sex?  I have friends from all different age ranges, and it is compelling to hear some of the conversations that they have, in discussing when it is too soon to have a sexual relationship, with the person that they are seeing.  So, when actually is it to soon to have sex?

I find that some women are very needy and for whatever reason they don’t have much self-respect.  They seem to think that a man is what makes them significant.  Well excuse me, I thought that we were living in a generation where we could do whatever we wanted.  Aren’t we  supposed to have this ideology that because it’s the 2000’s we can be a mother, a career woman and still juggle being a daughter, friend and confidont, without a man?

I hear young woman say in regards to their new relationships, well I am not having sex until we have been together for a month, or two months, or three months, what is that?  When has it become such a scheduled event?

A friend of mine is seeing this new fellow and managed to have the “serious talk”, with him, with demands such as, I am not having sex with you until we have been together for three months and that he has to take a STD (sexually transmitted disease) test.  Well, I completely agree that anyone that has had multiple partners, MUST, I repeat MUST take an STD test, both people.  I mean if she can wait a whole 3 months before giving herself to this man, that, let me remind you, she has only known for three months, then I believe that it probably hasn’t been her first time engaging in sexual activity in such a short span.

I have been brought up with very strong religious opinions and beliefs, but what I want to know is what year did sex before marriage become so conventional?  When did our society disregard humility?  When did our men and women lose dignity?  How and when did we become so numb to morals?  I deem that numbers do matter, and once you end up with the one that you have fallen madly in love with, the one you are meant to be with, you will wish that you were their one and only.  You will then wish that you could have been the one to explore and have sexual discovery with your partner.

Then there are people from the generations of the 40’s, 50’s and 60’s that seem to believe that they can go for the plunge because they are older and wiser.  That they know what love is or that because they have life experiences that somehow they aren’t capable of getting hurt or used.  They believe that younger people don’t have the mature capability to love or be loved.   That is nothing but a false perception.

Well, I am sorry but there is nothing that makes me believe that one group is any better than another.  Sex, is sex, regardless of the emotional connection or philosophy.

So many people say that you have to “dip your feet in the water”, or “you have to taste all the flavours to know which kind you want”, well these “flavours”,  are allowing women to have multiple children with different men. 

I mean, men and women use to wear chastity belts, and what, now that it is off, it’s a free for all.  Come on, give me a break, have some will-power, some self-restraint.  What’s wrong with waiting awhile?  Who unlocked the chastity belt?  Why are we sexually engaging in one night stands?  Why are we allowing ourselves to be a number on someone’s bedpost?

People cheat because they are missing something from their relationship, and well if you hadn’t have explored with everyone else, then perhaps your relationship wouldn’t have been so tedious and/or exasperating.  Think about it, how and when did we become so numb to morals?  Tell me, when is it too soon to have sex?