So it is a rampant new habit that young people, mostly young women are doing called sexting, which is taking a picture of themselves nude and sending it around from their cell phone to young gentlemen (I use that word loosely) to try to coerce the young men into liking her with the possibility of having oral or sexual intercourse.  My question is sexting, really, how is that even cool?

Traditionally, our age range, would have engaged in phone sex which is talking smut on the phone, well we thought that this concept was awkward and strange, but sending nude pictures around for the world to see, seems to me a bit brazen.  Really once she presses send, it is a free for all, you don’t know who is going to have access to that picture.

My next question is why do all these young people need access to all of this technology?  Why do young people need cell phones?  When I was younger I didn’t have a cell phone and my parents knew where I was every waking minute.  In my generation parents spoke to one another, where there was a role model around to watch what we were in to and what we were doing.  It would be easy for me to verbally bash these parents that are not instilling any morals or self restraint.  But I won’t go there right now.  Young boys are experimental, they are creatures with wondering minds. 

So then what is going on with our girls?  When did sexting become cool?  Where are these girls at in their mind, to be able to get naked for a BOY that they don’t even know?  Who is taking these pictures of them?

Why don’t any of these girls have any self confidence?  Because in my mind any young woman that is taking a nude picture of themselves to gain respect and attention of a hormonal boy, is ridiculous.

Now it’s the parents turn… WHERE ARE YOU?  Why aren’t you monitoring the actions of your children?  Your sons are soliciting young girls and your daughter is becoming a prostitute in training.  All because they are missing and craving, your attention!  So, WHERE ARE YOU?  Too busy, with work and everything else that is going on with your life.  Well, your daughter is about to send a nude picture to the phone world, and I am sure that every boy in the school is going to see it.  Is that want you want for them.   Is that what you envisioned for them when they grew up.  But whatever right, you bought them everything they need to keep their impressionable minds busy.  Have you talked to them about safe sex yet?  Oh, wait, your child isn’t sexually active.  Well, let me give you a rude awakening, young people are starting to have sex at the age of 12.  A handful are sexually active children are starting to have sex at the age of 9.  THAT IS CRAZY!  But hey you can get a hold of them because you bought them a cell phone.  Right?

We the parents are the root of the problem.  Young people are blaming home life, they have no respect for their parents because they are not actively involved in their children’s lives, divorces are giving them the excuse that if their parents don’t have respect for love and a marriage then why should they have respect for any woman.  In their eyes a woman is an object, a disposable object.

“Take heed and beware of covetousness, for a man’s life consists not in the abundance of things that he possess’.”  Luke 12:15-16

Meaning, it is not what you are buying your children that should matter in your life it should be the time you’re putting in.  It is our responsibility to mold our children not with Wii games, but with love and morals.  It is our avocation to protect them, to provide them with standards and principle’s which do not come naturally to them.

So when it becomes your time to buy your young person a cell phone, remember the dangers that you could be putting them in. 

Do you know someone that participates in sexting?  What do you think of the ever growing subject?  Do you think that this is a dangerous way to show love?  Sexting, how is that even cool?

When Did Unprotected Sex Become So Normal?  More and more people have become completely unsafe in the practices of sex.

People now a days have multiple partners, flings, one night stands and do not use condoms.  Young men and women are taking huge sexual risks.  STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)are on the rise and it just seems as though they think they are invincible.  Like spider-man weaving webs and climbing walls, so are these groups of people that don’t believe that wrapping it up is a priority in their sexual life.

Young men and women believe that as long as a woman is on birth control, (which she is not most of the time) that having sex is not a risk.  A risk from what though I ask you?  You can still get pregnant, you can still get STDs, and you can still get HIV/AIDS.  So tell me, what is the birth control protecting you from?  I really want to know.

Women’s Health reveals how a casual attitude can have life-altering consequences.

I was reading an article where the young women said, “I don’t ask questions that I don’t want to know the answers to.”  Well, I bet she will be asking for child support!  She is currently sleeping with three men and doesn’t know any of their sexual pasts.  And when they ask her she lies.  Really why would any guy want to know that they aren’t the only one.  She said in this article that having casual sex keeps her safe emotionally.  You know the saying, “friends with benefits, or mating-without-dating.”  It’s happening all the time.  This is a very acceptable in our culture now.

Women are in this state of boozing themselves until they oblivious.  Absolutely polluted which takes away all of her inhibitions.  Sexual encounters just seem to happen when you look loose.  The “easy look.”  Where a man can buy her drinks with the knowledge that she is easy prey.  Alcohol is usually involved because it makes you bold enough to act and feel a certain way.  It throws all of our precautions away.

Plenty of young women today are stepping into active sex lives instead of being ambitious professionals pursuing time for traditional dating. “Sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies are hugely on the rise,” says sex therapist Laura Berman, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry and OBGYN at Northwestern University. “Unprotected anal (which is equally as common as vaginal sex) and oral sex, being with multiple partners, not having regular testing or regular Pap smears, drinking…all of these things create a perfect storm for putting yourself at higher risk.”

It is so easy for a man to say that it just doesn’t feel the same during sexual intercourse, but it doesn’t feel the same when you are pregnant either.  Women need to stop gambling their lives away.  Abortions, morning  after pills, the consequences are vast.

So if this were a sign it would say, “Missing, my libido, I have no libido, what do I do?”  Reward, happiness!!

So let’s talk about the hushed issue that effects so many women and yet nobody wants to talk about it.  It’s a scary revolution that most people are too embarrassed to talk about.  So why is this?  Why is it that behind closed doors we are struggling with the desire to have sex after having a child, and feeling ashamed.  Why are we scared to talk about what is wrong with us?  Wouldn’t the commentary and awareness bring out answers?  Wouldn’t speaking out loud about this topic, help for  the positive.

Since having my daughter approximately four and a half years ago, I have had ABSOLUTELY no desire to have sex.  (Mind you I do have sex, because it’s not just about me right.)

I was reading this article called, “Do People Actually Have Sex After Babies,”  where they too were looking for answers, with quite similar questions as mine.  In this article they were saying that every woman is different, but that it is completely normal to ob-stain from having sexual intercourse because it just doesn’t feel right. 

There are other women on the other hand that are comfortable with their body as well as having the infamous libido, that goes missing for others.  The post was saying that the doctor saying that the 6-8 week wait was completely normal but that it was also normal for a woman to feel scared and at arms length to procreate again.  I mean this is a very scary thought if your hormones aren’t helping you take over.  We just went through a very traumatizing ordeal.  Look at the pain a man goes through when he is passing a stone, well hello, we just passed a watermelon, and most of us are sleep deprived.  I feel like we are treated like we are meant to be an on and off switch.

Now I am a proud mother of breastfeeding.  I breastfeed my beautiful daughter until she was two.  It was not a full time thing at the age of two, just a routine thing when her and I went to bed.  I was still producing a lot of milk and not only was it a release, it was also that emotional communication of love that we had for one another before going to sleep.  So it was harder on me then her when I finally stopped breastfeeding. 

For me because I breastfed, I feel like I don’t ever need to have sex again and be okay that decision.  Doctors say that this is normal. “There is some evidence that the hormones released during lactation can suppress other hormones in the body, and for some women can result in a lowered libido”. And we’re not just talking about less desire — many breastfeeding moms complain of vaginal dryness and pain with intercourse. Plus, breastfeeding or not, dealing with an infant is exhausting and often stressful, knocking sex down a few rungs on the priority list.

I work in a facility that there are a lot of women and there is no subject that is off limits to us.  Some women say that sex is just not even a thought after they have a child, sex in their mind seems uncomfortable, gross (that any man would actually want to be there after seeing a child come out of the same zone), and time consuming.

Conversations are had, about if it is going to hurt, will it ever feel the same again, can we be stimulated, and will we have enough lubrication to last a session.  Some women are ready 6 weeks in and others aren’t even seeing it in the future 6 months in.

So in the end it all comes down to you and your body, every woman is different. 

In some cases after exiting the hospital we usually have a prescription for birth control from our doctor, and though that is well and all, that too doesn’t increase desire for sexual intercourse, in fact birth control usually decreases desire.  All you really do is see your doctor and talk to the professional about it.  Blood work can be done and hopefully you and your partner can come up with some kind of compromise.  I hope you can find your libido!!

Do you have a story similar to mine?  Are you missing your libido?  Are you scared to have sex after your child birth?  How long did you wait?  Share your story, we all have a story and together we can bring awareness to this untold subject about, “Missing, My Libido, What Do I Do?”

When reading the article, “Do People Actually Have Sex After Babies,” there was this one comment made by this man.  Take a look at what he wrote and give me your feed-back and opinion to his statement.  Enjoy! *I roll my eyes.*

Speaking as the Husband I can say that many, many women totally underestimate the importance of physical intimacy in a relationship.  I ‘went at her pace’ after our first child was born which meant nearly a year, then six months for the second and the waiting killed my sexual interest in her.

I no longer see my wife as a sexual being.

At this point in her life she gets her intimacy from the children & I am expected to wait forever.  Sex & intimacy is as much of a biological need for mental health as food is for physical health.  Do I want to go through the hassle of a mistress or set aside money for the eventual divorce? No. Am I because I have given up waiting and have talked with my wife till I was blue in the face?  Yes.

So there you have it, if sex is too much of a burden for the wife, fidelity is too much of a burden for the husband.

Doubtful Dave