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Halloween Safety Tips, Safe Trick or Treating For Our Children

October 28, 2011 By: Lynn Category: Our Children, Parenting

As Halloween quickly approaches, here are some tips for safe trick or treating for your family.  Let’s also use this time to teach our children about stranger danger.  We need to keep them safe from even the most enticing candy.

I know what you are thinking, I am an adult of course my child(ren) are going to be safe, trick or treating, but think of it as a refresher.  There are a lot of freaks out there. 

Better to be safe then sorry.

  • Have adult supervision.  Always accompany your children if you don’t think they’re old enough to trick or treat on their own.
  • The more the merrier.  If they’re old enough to trick or treat without an adult, they should alway stay in a group setting.  Two or three are always  better then one.
  • Have a mapped agenda.  Designate a route before your children begin trick or treating, and make sure they stick to it.   That way if they ar not back in a timely fashion you can go look for them.
  • Trick or treat in friendly neighborhoods.  Ensure your children only visit houses with lights on. And, if they have Halloween decoration on the porch then they are sure to be in the spirit.

Apples, peanut butter and marshmellows.  Dip your apples in pineapple or lemon juice and they will not get brown!

  • Stay in a crowd.  Have your children trick or treat in areas where there are a lot of people around.  They should also avoid taking short-cuts through the woods, alleys and parking lots.
  • Stay outside.  Make sure your children never go inside someone’s house. Unless of course you know them.  They should never have to go inside to get candy from someone.
  • Shorter equals safer.  Costumes shouldn’t be too long so that they don’t trip over them. Wear flame retardant costumes, because of fire in the jack-o-lanterns.
  • Remain visible.  Dress your children in a bright costume so others can see them.  If their costume is dark, have your children wear reflective strips or carry a glow stick or a flashlight.  Remember there are still a lot of drivers around, that may not be looking out for you or your children. 

Spaghetti noodles and hot dogs!  Who would have thought.  This is such a fun idea.   Add pasta sauce for a bloody effect.

  • Don’t cover the face.  Instead of masks, have your children wear make-up so they can see better.  And also, masks make them sweaty anyways.
  • Quality-check treats.  Check your child’s candy before they eat it.  Throw out any candy that is not in its original wrapper or looks like it has been tampered or opened.
  • Say “no” to strangers.  Tell your children to never accept a ride or go anywhere with a stranger.
  • Obey the law.  Encourage your kids to follow all the rules for walking around.  That includes looking both ways before crossing, obeying all traffic laws and using cross walks and crossing lights where available.

 I hope that you and your family stay safe and have fun this coming Monday. 

What are you and your little ones dressing up as?


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Sexting, How Is That Even Cool?

February 09, 2010 By: Lynn Category: Ashamed, Controversial, Discipline, Family, Frustrated, Health, Love, Marriage, Our Children, Parenting, Relationships, Sex

So it is a rampant new habit that young people, mostly young women are doing called sexting, which is taking a picture of themselves nude and sending it around from their cell phone to young gentlemen (I use that word loosely) to try to coerce the young men into liking her with the possibility of having oral or sexual intercourse.  My question is sexting, really, how is that even cool?

Traditionally, our age range, would have engaged in phone sex which is talking smut on the phone, well we thought that this concept was awkward and strange, but sending nude pictures around for the world to see, seems to me a bit brazen.  Really once she presses send, it is a free for all, you don’t know who is going to have access to that picture.

My next question is why do all these young people need access to all of this technology?  Why do young people need cell phones?  When I was younger I didn’t have a cell phone and my parents knew where I was every waking minute.  In my generation parents spoke to one another, where there was a role model around to watch what we were in to and what we were doing.  It would be easy for me to verbally bash these parents that are not instilling any morals or self restraint.  But I won’t go there right now.  Young boys are experimental, they are creatures with wondering minds. 


So then what is going on with our girls?  When did sexting become cool?  Where are these girls at in their mind, to be able to get naked for a BOY that they don’t even know?  Who is taking these pictures of them?

Why don’t any of these girls have any self confidence?  Because in my mind any young woman that is taking a nude picture of themselves to gain respect and attention of a hormonal boy, is ridiculous.

Now it’s the parents turn… WHERE ARE YOU?  Why aren’t you monitoring the actions of your children?  Your sons are soliciting young girls and your daughter is becoming a prostitute in training.  All because they are missing and craving, your attention!  So, WHERE ARE YOU?  Too busy, with work and everything else that is going on with your life.  Well, your daughter is about to send a nude picture to the phone world, and I am sure that every boy in the school is going to see it.  Is that want you want for them.   Is that what you envisioned for them when they grew up.  But whatever right, you bought them everything they need to keep their impressionable minds busy.  Have you talked to them about safe sex yet?  Oh, wait, your child isn’t sexually active.  Well, let me give you a rude awakening, young people are starting to have sex at the age of 12.  A handful are sexually active children are starting to have sex at the age of 9.  THAT IS CRAZY!  But hey you can get a hold of them because you bought them a cell phone.  Right?

We the parents are the root of the problem.  Young people are blaming home life, they have no respect for their parents because they are not actively involved in their children’s lives, divorces are giving them the excuse that if their parents don’t have respect for love and a marriage then why should they have respect for any woman.  In their eyes a woman is an object, a disposable object.

“Take heed and beware of covetousness, for a man’s life consists not in the abundance of things that he possess’.”  Luke 12:15-16

Meaning, it is not what you are buying your children that should matter in your life it should be the time you’re putting in.  It is our responsibility to mold our children not with Wii games, but with love and morals.  It is our avocation to protect them, to provide them with standards and principle’s which do not come naturally to them.

So when it becomes your time to buy your young person a cell phone, remember the dangers that you could be putting them in. 

Do you know someone that participates in sexting?  What do you think of the ever growing subject?  Do you think that this is a dangerous way to show love?  Sexting, how is that even cool?

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Two Peas In A Pod ~ It’s Called A Game Of Monkey See, Monkey Do

January 14, 2010 By: Lynn Category: Child Care, Family, My Daughter, Our Children, Parenting, Relationships

If you have children that are over the age of three, you know that they pick up so many sayings and gestures that belong to their parents, that you sometimes say to yourself, “I can’t believe that I made that.”

When bragging about my daughter, I am usually saying it because I am baffled that they are smart enough, at their awkward age to absorb so much.

Things that I get a kick out of are usually small thing to be honest with you.  How they know their phone number, how they understand the family tree.   Now this one, is a big one for me.  The family tree, think about it.  If they are lucky enough to have multiple grandparents then, just know who belongs to whom, is crazy.  Like she knows that my parents have a whole bunch of kids and that they are my brother and sisters, then she knows that my husbands parents have children, then she knows that my sibling have children and that they are her cousins, then she knows that my parents have sibling, the cycle goes on.  That is a lot of information for a little person.  It’s fascinating!!

So my brother’s daughter came to spend the night last night.  She is three, going on four very shortly, and the way that these two girls communicate with one another, is crazy.

They are little women.  They mimic everything that we as parents say to them.  The girls were playing with dolls, you know, being mothers and my word they are hilarious. 

You know alot of the time it seems as though they are not listening to us, but let me tell you, they most certainly are. 

They scold their doll appropriately, they speak to on another with manners, respect, love and compassion.

So, next time your are sitting around and your children are playing, take a minute to see what we are molding into our society.  It truly is beautiful!!

Monkey see, monkey do, let’s make sure we are providing our children with positive clues.

Do you have an example of a scenario that your children may have acted out that made you smile with disbelief?

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