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When Is A Good Time For Parents To Have Sex When You Have Children In The Next Room?

October 13, 2011 By: Lynn Category: Frustrated, My Daughter, My Husband, Our Children, Sex

If you have children then I am sure that you have probably experienced this situation at one time or another;  when is a good time for parents to have sex when you have children in the next room?

My husband and I have two small children, our daughter is six and our little fellow is 11 months.  My hubby works nights and for the most part sleeps all day, everyday.  Every now and then when he is awake in the daytime hours, we feel as though it would be nice to get it on have a quick love making session.  Now with two children, this has to be a thoughtout process and done absolutely quickly, before they fight, he starts crying, or before our daughter thinks that we’ve been, ”talking to long,” and opens the door to find out, what is none of her business.

So, on the odd occasion we will ask our daughter if she can be a big girl, and babysit her brother to give her daddy and I fifteen minutes to get it on talk privately, without any interruptions.  So, on that note we go in the bedroom, and do you think that I/we can concentrate?  OF COURSE NOT.  She is in the other room throwing a ball at his head playing catch, and not even five minutes in, our son is bored and gets up to play with the bedroom door handle and is banging on the door, screaming “momma”.  Grrr.

Let’s just say that on a number of occasions my husband is not very fulfilled by the end of our, “conversation.”  Does this ever happen to you?  Have you ever been in the middle of having sex with your significant other and have to stop because of the children?  When is a good time to have sex when you have children and both work opposite shifts?



Lending Money Out, I Need To Learn To Say No

August 28, 2011 By: Lynn Category: Bad Habits, Discipline, Feelings, Frustrated, My Husband, My Views

I have a BIG problem!!  I am the one and only  person that I know to sabotage my own happiness.  I let people walk all over me not intentionally and in turn I get hurt and it’s no-body’s fault but my own.  I lend money out, and I need to learn to say no. Do you have a problem saying no to people?

My husband is always saying that I have a lot of bark at home but no bite with my friends or family.  On a regular basis whether I am busy or can’t do something, I seem to always find ways to rearrange my time and schedule to help someone in need;  in turn always get screwed over in the end.

Have you ever loaned someone money when you really don’t have enough to lend and are promised the money back in a speeding time and then either never get it back or there are 100 and 1 reasons that they just can’t get it back to you until next pay then you still don’t get it. Or they forget to pay you back? Who forgets to pay somebody back money? Makes no sense, but that is what happens to me.  And I have no courage to ask for the money back, because in my mind they don’t need the extra stress on there shoulders of me asking for my money back.  I just don’t want to cause anyone distress.  Yet, it causes me all the stress in the world.

I am maternity leave right now, and anyone that has been on unemployment insurance know that you hardly make any money, so it’s harder budgeting and in turn extra money kicking around isn’t in the books.  But I still seem to help people.  And for every $20-$100 dollars that I’ve got floating around out there is another dollar that I would have to enjoy time with my children or buy the essentials of life.

Do you have anyone out there that owes you money?  How would you resolve the situation without looking like you are broke and need the money back or making the borrower feel stressed about giving you the money back that they may not have?  I need your help!

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What Do You Think Of Jake Pavelka Picking Vienna? And Rejecting Tenley? The Bachelor: On The Wings Of Love

March 01, 2010 By: Lynn Category: Feelings, Frustrated, Love, My Views, Relationships

Well as you all might know, the Bachelor: On The Wings Of Love, has come to a close and I am so sad to see this reality show  go off the air. 

I can honestly say that I am in love with Jake and Tenley!  I could watch their life from a distance forever!  Tenley seems to be the perfect woman.  It actually makes me teary eyed to watch such a display of affection and love put out there and in the end be broken hearted.  She has so many fine qualities, she is passionate and without a shadow of a doubt in love with Jake.

I am sad and equally hurt that I have invested so much of my heart into this show, for Tenley to be rejected at the end!  She has so much poise and honour.  What a wonderful woman, I thoroughly hope that she will be the next bachelorette.  I feel like I’ve just been dumped.


Vienna has been controversial, and in most cases I would rally to support her because she appears to be the underdog.  But in this case, I think that he needs to use ration and not only the physical attraction.  And in the end he chose her.  Do you believe that it was lust over love, or do you think that he gave her the appropriate benefit of doubt?  And went with his heart?  What do you think of him picking Vienna? 

What would you say to Tenley to reassure her that the world has fallen in love with her and that she will make someone happy?


What do you think of Ali being the next Bachelorette? 

Leave a comment, I want to hear what you think.


PS. Don’t forget to watch Jason Mesnick & Molly Malaney’s wedding next Monday March 8, 2010 at 9:00PM.

UPDATE:  Small clip from Tenley being on the Ellen DeGeneres Show today. 

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