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Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays?

December 18, 2011 By: Lynn Category: Controversial, My Views, Political Views, Religious Beliefs

Does it really matter that much, whether or not someone says Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays?  Does it really affect the end result of what they truly mean?

I find that some controversial sayings have become very petty in the last couple of years.  Personally, whether or not someone does not respond to me over the holidays, by saying Merry Christmas does not mean that they are any less in the spirit. 

I know that is has been a huge topic around here on whether employees can say Merry Christmas anymore because of the religious background behind it.  It has been debated that the government and retail industry are trying to do away with people saying it to consumers, because of one’s personal background and religious beliefs.  I think that this is ridiculous.  We need to remember the true meaning of Christmas.  We also have to remember that everyone has a different opinion, so we should be able to say what is fitting to our culture and not be judged.  It’s a personal belief.  It shouldn’t be about how someone else takes it or how it makes you feel.  Why should someone convert their views to cater to someone else?

Shouldn’t I be able to say Happy Kwanzaa, if that was the traditional holiday that I celebrate and you respond back to me Happy Holiday.  Shouldn’t we be able to respect one another?

Now I understand that the government are trying to use Happy Holidays as a standard, a generic saying if you must, so that there is no religion involved with it, but if you are that 85 years old man that has been saying Merry Christmas his whole life, then I do believe that he should have every right to feel disrespected when someone says to him that he shouldn’t say it anymore.  Is this new standard of us not responding Merry Christmas back to him, appropriate or fair?

I feel that as the holidays approach, we should all take a little more time to respect one another.  We need to remember that this season isn’t and shouldn’t be all about the merchandise, it’s about family and for a lot of people in the world Christmas is still about, Jesus’ birthday.  So even though you may not agree with my thoughts or someone else’s thoughts on the time of the year doesn’t mean that we should disrespect one another.

Do you believe that we need to do away with saying Merry Christmas?  Do you prefer Happy Holidays?  Perhaps you are a different religion, would it bother you not if someone wished you something that was not your religion?  Do you feel like you should have the right to say what you have grown up with, or do you feel like a generic saying for the world will makes things easier?  Share your thoughts!

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Is It Safe To Smoke Marijuana When Pregnant? Can It Hurt The Fetus/Baby?

December 09, 2011 By: Lynn Category: Bad Habits, Controversial, Health, My Views, Pregnancy

Do you think that it is safe to smoke marijuana while you are pregnant?  Can it hurt the infant or baby after birth? 

What do you think of this topic?  Do you think that there are long or short term affects to the fetus if you smoke marijuana when pregnant? Do you think that this is a critical time with the baby’s brain while in this developmental process.

There are ALOT of different views on this topic.  I was recently at a mom blog where she was discussing the pros and cons to smoking marijuana when pregnant and whether or not she felt that it was a safe practice.

I personally, am not a cigarette smoker, do not do drugs, and rarely drink.  I PERSONALLY find fault with anyone doing drugs while being pregnant.  This is my PERSONAL opinion.  I think that if it can slow down your brain function and your ability to be focused when you are not pregnant then I believe that in some way or another it can jeopardize the health of your fetus and in turn your infant.

I do believe that smoking marijuana is an addiction.  I believe that it is as addicting as smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol.  I also believe that it is not safe for the baby

There is a TON of research that supports women smoking marijuana while being pregnant, with equal views, if not more, apposing the findings of such individuals or groups that agree with such beliefs.  A lot of people think that because you can grow marijuana or are in the possession of cannabis and that it is part of God’s green land that it makes it organically good for you, like the obvious dill, parsley and other known plants that you would grow in a herb garden.  But, as organic as it may be or as positive for your health as it may be, it is not allowing the brain to communicate well enough with the body to receive pain signals.  That is the reason it is often prescribed by a physician for the chronically ill.  It is not rare that someone going through cancer, or has been severely hurt with underlying pain or a medical conditions are smoking pot.  It helps to elevate the pressure.  It helps to maintain the pain by stunning the pain signals going to the brain.  For the moment it is making you feel relaxed.  But when using all the time it ups the anti, you need more of it, more often.  And in turn a normal person is categorized as a stoners.   But, whatever the positive aspects of marijuana is, it most definitely influences brain function.

So if this is what it is doing to a regular person then what can we expect it to be doing to a fetus.  A child growing in us?  If a fetus is receiving all of the nutrients through the mother’s diet and life through the mother’s umbilical cord, then wouldn’t the fetus be getting some of this marijuana as well?

You can go to online forums and find many mothers bragging about the benefits they received while pregnant smoking marijuana ei, better appetite, decreased nausea, less stress.

It is not healing you of anything, it is limiting brain communication with the body.

Whether your pregnancy is planned or not, it doesn’t and shouldn’t matter; motherhood does not begin at the birth, it begins as soon as we get pregnant.

What do you think of women smoking marijuana when pregnant?  Do you think that it affects the fetus?  Do you consider it do be a positive thing because of it being organic and in turn can reverse some of the negative side affects of pregnancy?  Do you know anyone that has smoked marijuana while pregnant?  Would you or have you ever done it?

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Cougars in Training

February 24, 2010 By: Lynn Category: Controversial, My Views, Sex

What is a cougar?

Answer:  The most commonly-accepted definition of a cougar is a woman 40 years of age or older who exclusively pursues very young men.  Some feel that a cougar can be as young as 35, but women of this age would not be viewed as cougars unless their sexual conquests were no older than 25; the ten-year age difference seems to be an unspoken but accepted minimum between partners.

A new breed of cougars has emerged—they’re called pumas.

 What is a puma?

Answer:  An attractive woman in her late 20s or early 30s. She is a pre-cougar who is not quite old enough to be a cougar, but still likes to date/mate with younger men usually 19-23.

These 30-something (pumas) women are eager to get in on the boy-toy action, and guys are happy to oblige.  Fact is, no matter what age bracket you’re talking about, being with an “older” woman appeals to a lot of men. She has the benefit of life experience, education, and more sexual experience, in the aspect that they know what they want—three traits guys admire.   Nowadays, women are more financially successful than ever, and this shift has changed what many men desire in a partner.  Guys are often attracted primarily to a woman’s independence, direction in life, and job success.  Allot of the time, these woman are so focused on their career that they are not ready to conceive either.  So, that, in and of itself, is a small blessing that these men are looking for.  “A good time, not a long time.”  There also may be less pressure for them to prove themselves financially, because pumas tend to be more understanding if younger guys lack ambition or success.

Women in these relationships are also reaping the benefits.  Since the guys may not have nailed down a high-powered career, they are often more carefree, relaxed, and up for anything, (hint hint, nod, nod) which can be a refreshing break for women who have been dating their stressed-out male peers.  Then it also boosts their ego: Considering that these guys have the option of scoring younger women, a puma would feel pretty damn good if she snags a cub.

Younger guys also have a tendency to put older girlfriends up on a pedestal and are more easily impressed by their achievements than older men might be.  And who wouldn’t love that?  He feels as though he has something to prove, because really she can go and be with someone her own age, but it feels good to this cub that she is, “choosing him.”

As cougars well know, and pumas are figuring out, dating a younger guy can be like hitting the sexual jackpot—and not just because women peak later than men do.   A woman is coming into her peak in her early thirties which would make a male in his twenties very sexually compatible.  As women leave their twenties behind, they become more comfortable in their skin, and instead of worrying about how they look during sex, they focus more on how they feel.  They want to be fulfilled, and desired, and a man in his early twenties wants to feel that acceptance from this cougar and puma. 

This self-assurance is very attractive to young men.  Appearance will always play a major role in physical attraction, but being with a woman who has confidence is more appealing for some young men than her having super tight abs.

So tell me how do you feel about going to a club and seeing a cougar or puma trying to pick up your ex. or your brother?  Are there still double standards out there?  Is this still a taboo issue?  And if you are someone dating or married to a younger guy, did you get allot of flack for it?

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