Sexting, How Is That Even Cool?
So it is a rampant new habit that young people, mostly young women are doing called sexting, which is taking a picture of themselves nude and sending it around from their cell phone to young gentlemen (I use that word loosely) to try to coerce the young men into liking her with the possibility of having oral or sexual intercourse. My question is sexting, really, how is that even cool?
Traditionally, our age range, would have engaged in phone sex which is talking smut on the phone, well we thought that this concept was awkward and strange, but sending nude pictures around for the world to see, seems to me a bit brazen. Really once she presses send, it is a free for all, you don’t know who is going to have access to that picture.
My next question is why do all these young people need access to all of this technology? Why do young people need cell phones? When I was younger I didn’t have a cell phone and my parents knew where I was every waking minute. In my generation parents spoke to one another, where there was a role model around to watch what we were in to and what we were doing. It would be easy for me to verbally bash these parents that are not instilling any morals or self restraint. But I won’t go there right now. Young boys are experimental, they are creatures with wondering minds.
So then what is going on with our girls? When did sexting become cool? Where are these girls at in their mind, to be able to get naked for a BOY that they don’t even know? Who is taking these pictures of them?
Why don’t any of these girls have any self confidence? Because in my mind any young woman that is taking a nude picture of themselves to gain respect and attention of a hormonal boy, is ridiculous.
Now it’s the parents turn… WHERE ARE YOU? Why aren’t you monitoring the actions of your children? Your sons are soliciting young girls and your daughter is becoming a prostitute in training. All because they are missing and craving, your attention! So, WHERE ARE YOU? Too busy, with work and everything else that is going on with your life. Well, your daughter is about to send a nude picture to the phone world, and I am sure that every boy in the school is going to see it. Is that want you want for them. Is that what you envisioned for them when they grew up. But whatever right, you bought them everything they need to keep their impressionable minds busy. Have you talked to them about safe sex yet? Oh, wait, your child isn’t sexually active. Well, let me give you a rude awakening, young people are starting to have sex at the age of 12. A handful are sexually active children are starting to have sex at the age of 9. THAT IS CRAZY! But hey you can get a hold of them because you bought them a cell phone. Right?
We the parents are the root of the problem. Young people are blaming home life, they have no respect for their parents because they are not actively involved in their children’s lives, divorces are giving them the excuse that if their parents don’t have respect for love and a marriage then why should they have respect for any woman. In their eyes a woman is an object, a disposable object.
“Take heed and beware of covetousness, for a man’s life consists not in the abundance of things that he possess’.” Luke 12:15-16
Meaning, it is not what you are buying your children that should matter in your life it should be the time you’re putting in. It is our responsibility to mold our children not with Wii games, but with love and morals. It is our avocation to protect them, to provide them with standards and principle’s which do not come naturally to them.
So when it becomes your time to buy your young person a cell phone, remember the dangers that you could be putting them in.
Do you know someone that participates in sexting? What do you think of the ever growing subject? Do you think that this is a dangerous way to show love? Sexting, how is that even cool?
F-U and Shirley: Sexting is degrading to all women. Maybe someday when you grown up and become a woman, you will realize this. Anyone who sexts (or whatever rediculous name you call it) has zero self-respect. Get a grip!
1I agree with Lynn, spend more time with your parents. Seems like you need it.
I agree with Dardios(on both counts, I did notice the irony of Steph’s post), but I also wouldn’t say sexting in general is a bad thing. I love receiving a dirty text from my girlfriend of 3 years. Being that we can do very little for intimacy at the moment since we now go to colleges in wholly different states. It’s nice to still be able to connect sexually in some way still despite distance.
I’m a 19 year old male and I can tell you that I make sure no one else gets a hold of them or even knows about them. I password my files like crazy.
2To Steph,
3I Understand where you are coming from, but the First Amendment is a two way street. You cannot criticize someone for voicing there opinion online while citing freedom of speech, it simply DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY. To say that one can only post positive feedback here is unreasonable. Another point to make, this is the internet, not everyone who views this page and responds is an American, and thusly freedom of speech is worth ZIP. I myself am an American though, so I shall exercise my First Amendment rights when I say, You are a pretentious, stuck up b***h, and you need to think before you post. Now, you may well be thinking “Well, no one made you read my comment!” but that is irrelevant. I HAVE read your comment, and am now voicing my opinion. That is the beauty of Freedom of Speech, and that is exactly what the people prior to myself did. If that is something you cannot accept, then you need to simply move on.
To Lynn,
I do believe the idea that not tapping into the technological advances we have made is a ridiculous one at best. I myself am a teenager (17) and I believe the fact that I do not engage in sexting is proof enough that your opinion that cell phones are to blame is wrong. I do not believe that it is the parents that cause these issues, it is simply EASY ACCESS. Thats all. Take the cell phones away and it will move to the internet. Not unlike your blog, it is not hard for a website to form based around sexting, or an online counterpart. Thusly, it is FAR safer for it to be contained to cell phones, as I PROMISE you, it will not become as widespread as if it were on the internet for all to see. Thank you for your time, and I apologize for my rant. Good Day.
OMG what happened to freedom of speech you can’t read someones blog and respond like that its like going into someones home and starting a fight with them you should be so ashamed of yourselves. If you have a problem with the post I’m sure no one is making you read it!
4Thanks for your comment Steph! Some people’s kids. lol
5To tell you the truth, your just jealous you weren’t a kid during these times. It’s not the 70’s nor will it ever be the 70’s again. Get over it and stop giving a shit about everyone else’s life and concentrate on living your own.
6Thanks for taking the time to read and respond with your opinion Shirley!! I would like to respond by letting you know that I am in no way, shape or form, “jealous.” In fact if I were, “into it” (sexting) then I am young enough to embrace it, BUT I believe that it is a cheap form of pornagraphy. And I do BELIEVE that a young person should not be put in the situation or have the means of sexting to get a boy to like or except their sexuallity. I was two years old in the seventies, the century diffinately has nothing to do with the subject at hand. I am trying to share my opinion with people that like to take the time to read…..that is what bloggers do!!! So again thank you for your opinion. I hope you have time to check out some of my other articles, I think that you will really enjoy,
http://www.amothersthoughts.com/2009/11/sex-when-is-it-too-soon/ or
http://www.amothersthoughts.com/2010/02/when-did-unprotected-sex-become-so-normal/
Come Again!!
Lynn
7You are living in a backward world. If you were my mother, i’d probably want to hurt you. I agree that parents should be concerned about this issue but Jesus christ, saying that young people shouldn’t have cell phones?????!?!?!?!!!!!?!??!!?!?!? SHUT UP.
8Well, F You, If I were your mother, you would be grounded indefinately!!
First – For having such a fowl mouth. Especially to an adult that you don’t know. If you are this aggressive over an article then I would have to say that your parents need to spend more quality time with you. How old are you? Because if you can curse and swear at a complete stranger then I am POSITIVE that the texts you are sending out are not healthy!! Thank you for taking the time to read the article and when you have a daughter write me back and we will see then if you want your daughter sexting to get a guy to like her.
Lynn
9I don’t get the popularity of sexting. It’s so impersonal.
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