Family matters and I am not talking about the show. We all know that with a family comes drama, fights, disagreements and conflict, but in the end most of us know that no matter what, family comes first. When you think of family, they are the individuals that hold us together. They are the glue to our very existence. When we need them they are the first ones there by our side, through the good, bad and ugly.
I can’t even envision what I would be, without the values that make me through my parents. Of course we are all different, but with diversity comes culture, comes variety. We all can gain positive reinforcement and are provided with structure and guidance through our family.
What is the definition of family; –noun 1. parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not. 2. the children of one person or one couple collectively: We want a large family. 3. the spouse and children of one person: We’re taking the family on vacation next week. 4. any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins: to marry into a socially prominent family. 5. all those persons considered as descendants of a common progenitor. 6. Chiefly British. approved lineage, esp. noble, titled, famous, or wealthy ancestry: young men of family. 7. a group of persons who form a household under one head, including parents, children, and servants.
When reading that it sees pretty black and white, cold almost, but with family comes love. And that is the basis, in which we see family. We don’t look at the word family and think black and white, we see the bigger picture. The categories that make us what we are. The nurturing, the compassion, the love, the respect. With those, the making of a family is easy.
I come from a different breed than my husband. He indeed is a wonderful father, but I definitely believe that he learned what love was through his path of life. Through the women that he has been in relationships with, through his children. I do not believe that he learned love through his family. He may disagree with me on this issue, but from what I see he and I were raised with different principles.
Family for me represents our strengths, they teach us wisdom, they give us values, family as a whole are seen as love.
What is the definition of love then; –noun 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 3. sexual passion or desire. 4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; 5. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid. 6. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one’s neighbor. 7. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books. 8. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love. 9. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
When reading that I see my family, but I absolutely do not see my husband’s family. It is really sad, that my husband hasn’t had the same kind of up-bringing as me. I have had the fortune of having a wonderful set of parents, and through all of life’s rides, great siblings.
My in-laws have somewhere down their path of life, miscommunicated love. They have forgotten that family comes first. They have forgotten that their children and grandchildren are people. Human beings. They have forgotten that people have feeling; they have forgotten that their children, that they have brought into the world, are still and always will be their children. Young or old, their children need love, affection and encouragement. My husband definitely didn’t receive any positive re-enforcement from his family. I find that this is so sad.
We all need to be loved, we all need to be respected. So next time you think that you don’t have time, and things are an inconvienence, remember you to may need something in return. Help is a two way street, and family should always be there!! No matter what!