If you are in a relationship or are married then you have probably heard that annoying phrase, “I don’t do that,” out of their mouth.  This is a quote that I hear on a regular basis.  There seems to be a lot of things that my significant other won’t can’t do.  Now you may be one of those extremely delusional  lucky women/men that think that you balance each other out and that they may not do something at the moment you ask them to, but they make up for in other ways.  Well, if that is you then I am happy *rolling my eyes* that you have that kind of support system, but for me in my house, that kind of support just doesn’t exist.

This morning I was getting my daughter ready for school, so feeling a little overwhelmed I was yelling asking my husband nicely to get back out of bed to change the baby’s diaper and get him dressed so that we could take our daughter to school.  So as a typical morning I am doing my daughter’s hair and asked my husband to put the baby’s shoes and socks on, well he pipes up,

 “I don’t do shoes.” 

Wwhhaatt!??  That make no sense to me!!@! 

“Husband, do you wear shoes?” 

 ”Um, well, yay,” 

“well then you do shoes!!” 

Lord grant me the strength.  “I don’t do shoes,”  can you imagine, if I could get away with the phrase, “I don’t do that, “ then I am pretty sure that I would be on a permanent vacation on a tropical resort, being served by hot  half naked men.  These are some others that I hear quite often,  I don’t change diapers, I don’t do laundry, I don’t do silverware, I don’t cook like you and I don’t want to screw it up, that one is special.   All I know is that my son will NOT be following in his father’s footsteps.    Whomever gets my boy will be indebted to me forever!

Do you have any funny yet annoying phrase that your husband or significant other says to you?  Do you have a “I don’t do that,” example?

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Do you think that it is safe to smoke marijuana while you are pregnant?  Can it hurt the infant or baby after birth? 

What do you think of this topic?  Do you think that there are long or short term affects to the fetus if you smoke marijuana when pregnant? Do you think that this is a critical time with the baby’s brain while in this developmental process.

There are ALOT of different views on this topic.  I was recently at a mom blog where she was discussing the pros and cons to smoking marijuana when pregnant and whether or not she felt that it was a safe practice.

I personally, am not a cigarette smoker, do not do drugs, and rarely drink.  I PERSONALLY find fault with anyone doing drugs while being pregnant.  This is my PERSONAL opinion.  I think that if it can slow down your brain function and your ability to be focused when you are not pregnant then I believe that in some way or another it can jeopardize the health of your fetus and in turn your infant.

I do believe that smoking marijuana is an addiction.  I believe that it is as addicting as smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol.  I also believe that it is not safe for the baby. 

There is a TON of research that supports women smoking marijuana while being pregnant, with equal views, if not more, apposing the findings of such individuals or groups that agree with such beliefs.  A lot of people think that because you can grow marijuana or are in the possession of cannabis and that it is part of God’s green land that it makes it organically good for you, like the obvious dill, parsley and other known plants that you would grow in a herb garden.  But, as organic as it may be or as positive for your health as it may be, it is not allowing the brain to communicate well enough with the body to receive pain signals.  That is the reason it is often prescribed by a physician for the chronically ill.  It is not rare that someone going through cancer, or has been severely hurt with underlying pain or a medical conditions are smoking pot.  It helps to elevate the pressure.  It helps to maintain the pain by stunning the pain signals going to the brain.  For the moment it is making you feel relaxed.  But when using all the time it ups the anti, you need more of it, more often.  And in turn a normal person is categorized as a stoners.   But, whatever the positive aspects of marijuana is, it most definitely influences brain function.

So if this is what it is doing to a regular person then what can we expect it to be doing to a fetus.  A child growing in us?  If a fetus is receiving all of the nutrients through the mother’s diet and life through the mother’s umbilical cord, then wouldn’t the fetus be getting some of this marijuana as well?

You can go to online forums and find many mothers bragging about the benefits they received while pregnant smoking marijuana ei, better appetite, decreased nausea, less stress.

It is not healing you of anything, it is limiting brain communication with the body.

Whether your pregnancy is planned or not, it doesn’t and shouldn’t matter; motherhood does not begin at the birth, it begins as soon as we get pregnant.

What do you think of women smoking marijuana when pregnant?  Do you think that it affects the fetus?  Do you consider it do be a positive thing because of it being organic and in turn can reverse some of the negative side affects of pregnancy?  Do you know anyone that has smoked marijuana while pregnant?  Would you or have you ever done it?

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Euthanatia and helping someone die.  What is your view on assisted suicide?

I actually have three conflicting views on this subject.  First and foremost I was brought up by a minister as a father.  I was brought up to believe that suicide is a sin and that it is the same thing as murder, except murder to yourself and in the end, come judgement time, standing in front of Lord that  it will not be justifyable.  No matter what good works that you have done in your life murder is murder unless you repent your sins, and obviously you can’t do that if you are dead.

The second view that I have comes soley from the fact that I work part time at a nursing home.  I personally see the pain and suffering that some of these people go through.  Whether it be cancer, old age, diseases or the lack of  being able to do anything on their own anymore.  As much as I preserve their dignity and comfort, sometimes it is a shame to see someone just waiting for the, “final stretch.”  Knowing that they are there just waiting to die.  A Lot of the time once they get into a nursing facility, their family forgets about them.  Out of sight equals out of mind.  We become their family.  So to see a grown man who once use to be spry and now is wearing incontinent products and sleeping all the time because he would rather be dead then have people see how down hill he has become, makes me second guess and question my first view.  Why does there have to be so much pain and agony?  Why can’t we go when time feels right.  When we have lived life to it’s fullest?  I mean we have been lifelong tax-payers, we have contributed to society, we have raised a family and at times our children’s children.  They have been married for more years then a 100 people as the national average of marriage.  When is enough, enough?

My third view on suicide as a whole; I believe that it is a cop out.  It upsets me when I have heard of someone committing suicide.  It is a selfish undertaking that not only kills the killer but it also, changes and sometimes kills the family and friends associated with them.  It is never just about the person that kills himself, everyone linked to them is affected and brought down with the narrow mentality of the person that is selfishly taking their life.

So for me, I am very conflicted with this topic.  I think that with the assistance of a professional, family consent and depending on the circumstance then the conversation of euthanasia could be discussed if not religiously bonding.  It’s hard to know that someone, ever so ill can not be helped.  Sometimes it doesn’t seem like a natural death is the right choice.

What is your view on euthanasia?  Do you have conflicting beliefs on this subject?  Do you think that euthanasia is any different then murder?  Or do you think of euthanasia as more of a mercy death?  Share your thoughts with me!!

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As shocked as the world was Music legend and international rock star, Jon Bon Jovi (John Francis Bongiovi, Jr) did not die at the age of 49 of cardiac arrest.  Alot of people will be asking the question is this even true, but we are so happy that it is not.  This rumor started with a tweet and another blogger that felt the need to stir things up.  In a matter of hours this information went viral.  I in fact saw it on Facebook.  However, someone just had a little too much time on their hands.

On a blog post and an internet tweet making the public believe that the Rockstar Jon Bon Jovi (John Francis Bongiovi, Jr) born March 2, 1962 was pronounced dead today December 19, 2011, the blog post went a little something like this;

After paramedics found him in a coma at his Empress Hotel, city and law enforcement of Asbury Park, New Jersey sources told The Times after World Christmas Tour concert on The Bamboozle Festival, North Beach Asbury Park.

New Jersey Fire Department-First Aid Captain Douglas Gray told the local newpaper that the paramedics responded to a 911 call from the home. When they arrived, Bon Jovi was not breathing.

The paramedics performed CPR and took Jon Bon Jovi to Jersey Shore Medical Center, Ruda said.  Hundreds of reporters gathered at the hospital awaiting word on his condition.  The sources, who spoke on the condition of anonymity, said Bon Jovi team rushed to Bon Jovi’s bedside, where he suffered Cardiac arrest.

The detectives plan to interview relatives, friends and Bon Jovis’s doctors to try to figure out what happened. The N.J. County coroner’s office will determine a cause of death.  A New Jersey Fire Department source told The Times that Bon Jovi was in full cardiac arrest when rescue units arrived.

Jon the lead singer of rock band Bon Jovi, which was named after him, has had an astonishing career.  He has released two solo albums and eleven studio albums with his band, which to date have sold over 130 million albums worldwide.  Тhe band was declared the second richest band for 2011.

If you are anything like me then you have been to a dance or two and you have been acompanied by one or two of Jon Bon Jovi’s slow songs.  Jon Bon Jovi is well known for some of his hit songs such as; Bed Of Roses, Always, Hallelujah, I’ll Be There For You and Thank You For Loving Me.

As a solo artist, Bon Jovi has received numerous awards for his work, including a Golden Globe and an Academy Award nomination for his solo hit, “Blaze of Glory.”  He was awarded an honorary Doctorate of Humanities from Monmouth Universary in 2001. He campaigned for Al Gore in the 2000 Presidential electinos, John Kerry in the 2004 Presidential election, and Barack Obama in the 2008 Presidential election.

Jon Bon Jovi’s wife of 22 years and high school sweetheart Dorothea Hurley and their four children – Stephanie Rose, 18, Jesse James, 16, Jacob, 9, and Romeo, 7  will indeed still have their father to hug!!  He is a legendary man, and a incredible artist.  When it’s his time I am sure that he will go in a  Blaze of Glory.

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Does it really matter that much, whether or not someone says Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays?  Does it really affect the end result of what they truly mean?

I find that some controversial sayings have become very petty in the last couple of years.  Personally, whether or not someone does not respond to me over the holidays, by saying Merry Christmas does not mean that they are any less in the spirit. 

I know that is has been a huge topic around here on whether employees can say Merry Christmas anymore because of the religious background behind it.  It has been debated that the government and retail industry are trying to do away with people saying it to consumers, because of one’s personal background and religious beliefs.  I think that this is ridiculous.  We need to remember the true meaning of Christmas.  We also have to remember that everyone has a different opinion, so we should be able to say what is fitting to our culture and not be judged.  It’s a personal belief.  It shouldn’t be about how someone else takes it or how it makes you feel.  Why should someone convert their views to cater to someone else?

Shouldn’t I be able to say Happy Kwanzaa, if that was the traditional holiday that I celebrate and you respond back to me Happy Holiday.  Shouldn’t we be able to respect one another?

Now I understand that the government are trying to use Happy Holidays as a standard, a generic saying if you must, so that there is no religion involved with it, but if you are that 85 years old man that has been saying Merry Christmas his whole life, then I do believe that he should have every right to feel disrespected when someone says to him that he shouldn’t say it anymore.  Is this new standard of us not responding Merry Christmas back to him, appropriate or fair?

I feel that as the holidays approach, we should all take a little more time to respect one another.  We need to remember that this season isn’t and shouldn’t be all about the merchandise, it’s about family and for a lot of people in the world Christmas is still about, Jesus’ birthday.  So even though you may not agree with my thoughts or someone else’s thoughts on the time of the year doesn’t mean that we should disrespect one another.

Do you believe that we need to do away with saying Merry Christmas?  Do you prefer Happy Holidays?  Perhaps you are a different religion, would it bother you not if someone wished you something that was not your religion?  Do you feel like you should have the right to say what you have grown up with, or do you feel like a generic saying for the world will makes things easier?  Share your thoughts!

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